Ok so with it being Mothers Day I was thinking about the things that I’ve learnt along the way.
There are so many things that mums have to compromise about themselves and their own lives.
We all know about the no sleep, the weight that’s hard to shift, the changes to lifestyle, feeling a loss of identity, the list can go on. I know there are lots of things we fear when motherhood is looming ahead and I for one was not someone who planned to have even have children. I guess as I got older I thought well its now or never so we jumped in.
After struggling with depression during the first trimester of both of my pregnancies I was high risk for post natal depression (luckily it never eventuated). I admit I had fears about if I was doing the right thing, if I would bond, the whole childbirth thing (I went the c- section route), wondered if I even wanted to be doing this at all. I think a lot of it was the hormones too but I guess it’s natural to worry.
But now that I’m on the other side I can see that my life has evolved in ways I would never have imagined if I didn’t have kids.
So here are my top 5 things that I’ve learnt since becoming a mum.
- The value of time. Nothing gives you a sense of your own limited time on earth than having children and watching them grow so quickly right before your eyes. I’m very guarded how I spend my time, and what I commit to. It’s the precious thing I have.
- Patience and compassion for kids and other mums struggling… I still see my old self in people like the ones who just realised they will have to sit near us on the airplane or the childless woman who doesn’t want to talk to the boring mum at a party and hear all about their kids..eekk terrible but true..lol..
- Even though we are mums we are still the same bright, funny , intelligent, clever person. It’s like becoming someones mum gives you an identity crisis.. we still have hopes and dreams past the ones of wanting the best for our kids.
- The smiles and cuddles really do make up for the challenges and tantrums.
- Being a mum makes you aware of what kind of things you will and won’t put up with in life. You want to set an example to your kids about how they deserve to be treated. I know my mum encouraged me to speak up for myself purely because she was such a shy person and didn’t want me to be the same.
- Oh and how about giving things a go. If it wasn’t for having my son I’m pretty sure I would never have delved into the baby bedlinen arena. You kind of get over the whole what it it doesn’t work out thing.
- An appreciation of all the things your own parents did for you… when I was a kid I guess I felt like my parents should know this or that because they were ‘old’. But now that I’m that age I realise hey they were just winging it back then. They made mistakes cause no one is an expert we are all just trying our best.
Oops thats seven. I’m sure there are plenty more you could add to the list.
So on that note I hope that you had a lovely Mothers Day and enjoyed your cold toast in bed..well the look on their faces is just priceless isn’t it, you can’t disappoint them.
Picture credit Jade Flores Photography
PS I wish we had gotten family pics done when Campbell was born but we just love our family photos from when Willow was a newborn. They really do grow so quick that you just want to catch that moment in time.